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Health Anyone here dealt with excessive daydreaming?

Discussion in 'Konoha Country Club' started by LesExit, Aug 24, 2018.

  1. LesExit Empty without rats... & F America

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    I didn't really think anything of it when I was younger. When I was 10 I had this one daydream, but it wasn't like my normal daydreaming. It was incredibly detailed and lasted for hours and it somehow felt like I was really there. It made me feel so happy and alive. Ever since that moment I started having more long daydreams that I get lost in. It got to the point where it was basically daily. And now 11 years later I'm still doing this basically every day. I'll literally just go to my room and pace back and forth for hours while I'm stuck in my head. Sometimes I'll be out with my friends and want to leave early just so I can go back to my room so I can pace and imagine. I'm worried that I've underestimated just how much this has affected my social life.

    I think I just figured it wasn't that big a deal or it would just stop but it never has. If anything it has gotten worse and I find myself genuinely emotionally invested in these made up worlds and people I've crafted over the years. Sometimes I lay in bed and think that maybe if I just die I'll wake up in this world that is so much better than reality.

    I'm so concerned that I'll never get over this. I want to stop but can't imagine stopping at this point. It would feel like a real part of my life is being torn away even though I know it isn't real. I tried to speak to a therapist about it once and they seemed to think I was hallucinating and unaware of what reality was. And then I got nervous people would just think I was insane so I stopped trying to talk to people about it.

    For years I just thought I was alone and crazy. But then I found out this kind of thing is called maladaptive daydreaming and many people struggle with it. Basically excessive daydreaming and it is often paired with a repetitive motion. I didn't even realize I walking from one end of my room to another for hours until I read up on this shit.

    Anyways...I don't know... I just hope I can find a way to balance this better. Or that I'll just get past this which some people do eventually.

    Has anyone else experienced this ridiculousness?

    No??
    OK :gglife

    Please don't think I'm insane. I just wanted to talk about it and see if anyone else has experienced this :blobsad.
     
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  2. Ishmael I'd rather you hadn't seen that.

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    Lol I still do that, it started recently though 2 years ago I believe, I sometimes get lost in my head and do the want to be bothered because I'm to busy focusing on the thoughts inside of it.
     
  3. LesExit Empty without rats... & F America

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    What kind of thoughts? Are they like imaginary world thoughts or what :0?
     
  4. Ishmael I'd rather you hadn't seen that.

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    Yeah lol im in a different world an alternate universe of some sorts but I control mostly what goes on of course.
     
  5. LesExit Empty without rats... & F America

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    Ya I totally control what is happening. It isn't like I'm thrown into a world where I can't control anything. I just struggle to control the urge to go to this world. When you do it do you pace or circle or something along with it?
     
  6. Ishmael I'd rather you hadn't seen that.

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    yes, it's crazy this is the first time I've come across someone who does this as well, I usually walk slow and pace a bit.
     
  7. Xel

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    Do you have an occupation that takes up a lot of your time, like a job? I have a personality disorder than also kinda makes me detached from reality (and my own sense of self), though in an emotional sense, and honestly having a down-to-earth regular job is a great way to myself grounded in reality.
     
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  8. LesExit Empty without rats... & F America

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    It makes me happy to hear I'm not the only one :blobcuddle. Is that weird to say...? There are some forums and stuff online with people who deal with this. Have you ever spoken to anyone in real life about it? I tried to speak to one friend about it once and they just seemed confused.
    Do you find that it causes problems with your real life or do you think you manage it well?
    Not currently. I'm starting classes and my new job in 2 weeks and that will put me on a much more busy schedule. When I previously was working 8 to 9 hours a day I didn't really notice a difference in how much I daydreamed and the urge was always there. Getting home I would always instantly resort to the daydreaming for the night. But I think having a schedule like a job is good because when I don't have things like that I have almost no motivation to socialize with actual people, because I could just "socialize" in my head. So I think it does help you stay grounded in reality like you're saying :blobmelt. It just still bothers me that the urge to escape into the fantasy is still strong because I know it gets in the way of me enjoying time with friends.

    Also how is your rattie doing :blobaww!!?!
     
  9. Xel

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    I daydream a lot too, not to such extent, but when I'm busy with real-life stuff it still makes it more balanced out. I love my job but it does exhaust me both physically and mentally so daydreaming after it is actually a good way of resting my mind.

    And, well, I generally have a lot of stuff to do even when I'm off work. I used to resort to daydreaming more back when I was studying, both because my imagination was more active and because I had more reasons to want to escape I suppose (never liked the studying process, even if the subjects interested me). I know that your case is more serious and mine is different but I really did change into a more down-to-earth person just with age and all those years of working full-time.

    Though in all honesty if your daydreaming gets too bad you'll probably have to seek professional help :catthinks It's all well until it actually starts actively interfering with normal life.

    And my rat is quite well, chewing through blankets and eating gourmet food :catskully
     
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    I don't daydream a lot, but like Xel, I do dissociate a lot. What helps for me is having something to focus on for a while, like a TV show or game or something. It can be hard to snap back into me sometimes but it's the only way I found that helps me. Professional help is something I recommend if it occurs often enough to interrupt day to day tasks.

    BPD?
     
  11. Xel

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    No, I'm a schizoid with strong depersonalization. Or at least depersonalization was the first symptom that I showed, from very early childhood. I'm self-aware enough for it to not be too problematic, though. And I pretty much forced myself into self-awareness at some point, too. At least I don't get into as many bad situations due to my lack of understanding of others as before :catshivers
     
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    Ya maybe there a way to work with the daydreaming in a more healthy way. You just have to find the right balance.

    Well studying can be...meh :lmao. I'm hoping that as the years go on I'll spend less time doing the day dreaming. I'm glad that working and growing older helped you become more grounded over time!

    I'm worried I'm underestimating how much it interferes with my normal life. I told myself that I'll speak to someone again later this year. Might be a good idea.

    What does not being self aware feel like to you? If you don't mind going into it.

    I'm so happy the ratties is doing well :blobmelt! No idea what gourmet food means XD. But I'm sending love to them and you!
     
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    Yeah self-awareness is always the first step in the right direction. Maybe you really can give some direction to your daydreaming. As for me, well, to put it very simply I have a sense of detachment from myself, kind of like I'm playing as myself in a video game (not in the visual sense of course, but kind of like feeling that there's some extra step between your mind and your body and your actions aren't really your own). And it also makes me detached from other people emotionally. In the past, it led to a lot of situations where I would hurt people without realizing it at all. Like their feelings didn't exist. And I was definitely smart enough to understand what I did, too. It just like, didn't get through to my brain or something. I also have manipulative tendencies. I know all of it by now so I can at least consciously avoid doing that :cattired

    Edit: I still can't form close bonds with ppl though :catthinks
     
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    I don't think it's weird nor do I think your insane, however if need be try a counselor or a therapist or a psychiatrist to maybe have them talk you through what's going on as to why you've got long day dreams and why they last so long instead of short seconds. Btw going that route in asking for help with all those professionals does not make you look weak, taking the courage in asking for help actually makes you brave. And if it makes you feel any better about it, I sometimes day dream in spans of a couple minutes but after that last minute of daydreaming for some reason I've always had this minor amnesia of like wondering where I am, who I am, and why I'm in this area. It's freaky cause the longest it's ever lasted was a minute, and it's a interesting out of body experience thing of a split second of "holy shit where am I what am I what's going on" definietly interesting I've always been fascinated by it and curious to a certain degree.
     
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    Hashtag too relatable. I can form close bonds but I come on really really strong or really cold.

    Xel said most of what I had to say in the matter. Self awareness helps a bit but don't to be too hard on yourself when you notice yourself falling into the same hole. You maybe aware of it but it doesn't mean you know how to climb yourself out. I get really frustrated with myself when I'm doing something relating to my illness but I have to remind myself that I'm hardwired this way and it take a lot of work to both know it's happening and even more work to stop it.

    What Xel said about dissociating is pretty much what I go through. Outside of that, I can be manipulative without realizing it though. I also push people away a fuck ton to avoid being hurt, and will actively seek out to destroy my life just to find that little sparkle of happiness.

    Oh on a lighter note, the preview for the thread looks like "anyone here dealt with ex..." and my mind immediately goes to "anyone here dealt with existing"
     
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  16. RemChu † Sky Above †

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    Have you tried moving the dreaming to sleeping hours? At this point it sounds like it's a core facet to who you are.

    Hmmmm, maybe try and channel this habit into something productive. Seems like a lot of creativity power there.
     
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    Thanks for sharing your experience! Don't think I've experienced anything like that ever. Except for maybe when I was drugged up after getting a bunch of teeth pulled. Seems like it was probably frustrating to know you were hurting people like that but struggled to realize you were. I'm glad that you're aware of these things so that you can work at them.

    Well...at least you can form close bonds with rats for now :skysun
    Thanks for not thinking those things. I think I will see someone within the next few months. I'm not sure what amount of day dreaming is considered the norm or not. I think most humans do it a bit and can get kind of lost in their head. So I think it is comforting remembering that most of us imagine a little. I hope the daydreams you get lost in are positive!!
    Thanks for writing this. I think you're right about how we can't be too hard on ourselves. Knowing what we are dealing with is so different than knowing how to deal with it. I'm happy you have this self-awareness. I hope you don't destroy your life. Seek out those sparkles in less destructive things. Like mozzarella sticks!!

    "anyone here dealt with existing" :lmao I didn't realize it looked that way. Nope. Never existed ever in my entire existence :LOS.

    I do it during the day and at night. I probably do it the most at night when I should be sleeping. And I fall asleep to the dreaming. Ya I honestly can't imagine not doing it.

    Maybe I should try that. I have all this nonsense in my head. But I've always just kept it in my head... Thanks for the suggestion :pandafiend. I don't know why I chose that emoji.
     
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    I did when i was a kid but not anymore.
     
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    Yes. Among other things, I actually use a variant of it to get to sleep at night. Because if I'm worried about something it's hard to switch that off and go to sleep. So I construct a 'shell' of a character/persona with a different life and different problems, which are just distant enough from my mind and circumstances that they don't keep me awake from the stress of them.

    Say if I was worried about something from university back when I used to go to that, I'd 'inhabit' a persona in another world. Sure, they might be concerned about how to stop the monsters taking over the city or whatever, but that doesn't flip my stress meter, and my problems don't flip the stress meter for that persona. So I could be distant enough from the anxiety-freakouts that I could just slip into sleep after a while.
     
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    Yes, and then I found out I was narcoleptic.
     
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    Sounds like you have extreme depression and thus an extreme form of escapism. I would honestly recommend you to go to a specialist / therapist. I don't mean this in a bad way at all. I rather have you helped then overwhelmed and lost.
     
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    I daydream all the time tbh helps take my mind off of things that frustrate me in general.
     
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    :catsadfeels



    ... and today
    again
    I was just thinking that I am not the only one, right
    RIGHT


    Honestly, at some point I got ok with my inner worlds being born and getting devastated all the time up to the slightest inspiration or idea. It does not make me worse than any other person, worker, anyone.
     
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