I've noticed that there are quite a few threads from people that need help dealing with relationships. At times the person will acknowledge they need help and ask a legitimate question. Other times the person will literally rant about a situation or against women in general, which shows they need help and simply don't know how to ask the question that would help them. Lots of people also have social anxieties, problems on approaching the opposite sex and often feel lonely. This is where I can help. My credentials are simple: a Pastor-in-training, I've counseled couples before. I myself am happily married with a three month old son. Before I was married I was pretty social and was generally good at talking to women. My wife majored in counseling, is a very positive person and is generally an encouragement to everyone she meets. She helps me counsel. I'd like to help those who have questions about relationships, or just social problems of all kinds. I realize some of the questions will be ridiculous and others will chime in with some ridiculous noise, but this is the internet and that is to be expected. Either ignore or laugh at those posts - whichever you feel is appropriate - and post some questions and I'll try my best to answer them. Also, don't let my pastoral background dissuade you from posting. If you want some more moral counseling you can VM or PM me, but in this thread I'm more about trying to help you be successful than trying to proselytize anyone. I'll also break the ice with a problem I've seen and the solution. From DDJ: Eventually you have to divulge some of your past relationships to your partner. This is good for several important reasons, but lets just name two: 1. You need to divulge whether or not you have an STD. That has to do with your past relationships. 2. You need to explain trust issues you have an why you have them. If you've been with a partner that cheated on you that is something you'll eventually have to share because that experience will cast a shadow on your other relationships and your partner won't know what they're facing unless you tell them where that shadow comes from. Your past is important because often it marks hurdles that you both need to overcome. One of the best ways to sabotage a relationship is to hide the landmines in your past. --- Well let's shoot. Who needs some advice?