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Overconfidence vs Insecurity

Discussion in 'Konoha Country Club' started by StarlightAshley, Nov 23, 2018.

  1. StarlightAshley Banned

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    Which theoretical person do you find more likable/dislikeable? :):)

    A) Person A is incompetent in most areas but is always completely self assured and exuding confidence, giving off the impression as if they know what they're doing/talking about, even though they don't.

    B) The other person is actually fairly competent at most things but they have absolutely zero confidence and act nervous and unsure constantly about -everything- they say and do.
     
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    Person A seems fun until there’s any conflict which will just lead to hella frustration, in which case I might end up being annoyed by them

    Person B is fine as long as most of our interactions don’t boil down to them feeling sorry for themselves, and legit selling themselves short for brownie points, I tolerate that less in other dudes


    Though off some real shit I think people tend to be as cocky as they are anxious at times so yeah there are nuances




    (Also this is high key a KCC thread)
     
  3. Owl m ø r k e t s p r i n s

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    I choose person B

    Person A and I will constantly clash. I'd think they're the most idiotic person in the world because of their incompetence, and us being both domineering and confident would make matters worse.

    Person B on the other hand will be the perfect idiot to manipulate :smoke
     
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    I dislike both
     
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    I can deal with either in small doses. But both are annoying as shit. I'll neither enable your delusions nor join your pity party.
     
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    people who are massively overconfident with little to no reason to be are the people i hate the most

    then again my insecurity fucks me over time and time again

    neither are good
     
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    I definitely hate A more but B can be hella annoying too (but also can be me occasionally so at least I can relate)
    but A is way more frustrating to deal with
     
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    Depends on the situation.
     
  9. cobe42 I'm ok with being wierd.

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    So all people are shit is the impression I'm getting here.
     
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    Yes and no
     
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    both are extreme so neither
     
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    Yea both are fairly shitty. B would be more bearable cause I hate people who think they know everything.

    In most real life cases it's a combo. For instance, I can exude confidence but I'm an insecure wreck deep down.
     
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    Murder both.

    Problem solved.
     
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    person B for sure is turbo obnoxious
    i can just laugh at person A’s shenanigans but person B being like BLUH BLUH IM USELESS is hyaku pasentu the worst thing a person can do or say
     
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    unless ur krory
    then it’s somehow endearing
     
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    reminds me of two alley posters
     
  17. cobe42 I'm ok with being wierd.

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    what if your too self centered to focus on other people's self-esteem issues?
     
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    Person A if they're charismatic enough to actually pull it off no matter what.
     
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    Person a sounds like someone who can at least improve or you can work with them. While B sounds like they will break down at any criticism.
     
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    Don't give up on someone who has already given up on themselves. I used to be person B and supportive people in the environment can do loads. I know it did for me.
     
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    I would not know how to work with Person B to help their confidence. Like do I keep feeding them confidence/moral and hope it sticks and no one immediately comes along to shatter it? Or do go the tough love route and hope that when they genuinely do something that is improvement they take that to heart? Hoping that the tough love does not crush them either.

    Of course when I mean tough love it will not be just completely hard on that person.
     
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    stuff along the lines of "stop being silly. U are good, so shut up with that nonsense" helps

    but it really depends from person to person
     
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    So like, a more lighthearted mix of the 2 I suggested?
     
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    yeah generally
    if they still insist that you're wrong you go more indepth and list reasons why they're awesome, stuff they can't argue with
     
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    I want to clobber both person A and B
     
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    Out of those two, B.
     
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    This is a paradox, if person b has no confidence and self doubts everything they do how are they fairly competent at the same time?
     
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    I think you're confusing confidence and competence mabye? :):)
    They're competent, as in they're good at things.
    but they're not confident, so they don't believe or act as though they're good at things.
    In other words they're capable, but don't believe in their self at all.
     
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