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Raising kids and hitting

Discussion in 'Perspectives' started by moer, Oct 22, 2005.

  1. moer the worst of the best

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    i read an article today that has a very strong veiw on how to raise children without any sort of violance, i persanally thought of this as plain crap, i myself see no wrong with a smak or two every once in a while if the kid can't see the wrong and get's too stuborn for his own good, a light spanking or smak that doesn't damage the kid permenatly is ok, ofcoarse not taking it to the extreme and conflicting serious damage to the kid, or hitting him whenever you feel like it, that's just wrong. i myself was hit when i was younger, i see no wrong in that, i even raised my younger brothers that way to, so what do you think? is hitting in general allowed in raising a child? or is the idea all together wrong?
     
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  2. Rook Sui Generis

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    A general spanking is definately acceptable as a way to discipline a child. I got spanked with a wooden spoon and it did its job. Slapping a kid in the face or anywhere else should not be done though.
     
  3. Dimezanime88 Tha Blak Demen

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    yea, i think the idea is right. Like you said, they have to be taught from wrong and right and not think that they are superior to their elders. I personally don't have kids, but with younger mates, I hit them when they are stubborn in situations. I don't punch, just a little slap on the body parts, except for the face [maybe the forehead at times]. Also, I don't hit when I want to, only when they deserve it.:p
     
  4. SillyRabbit123 ...

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    i agree that spanking is fine and okay but i sould never spank my brother. thats the job of the parent. i think the brothers/ssisters should be the nice one....unlike mine....maybe thats just cuz my brother is well behaved....
     
  5. SeruraRenge Reaching infinite

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    Personally, I don't know why people are so against spanking your kids. I mean, being like Bing Crosby is a crime, but there's nothing wrong with spanking yur kid when they misbehaved.

    Ya ever noticed that since spanking was no longer accpetable, kids (my generation) have become more and more rebellious.
     
  6. explicitkarma 24601

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    I see nothing wrong with spanking. I disagree with smacking and punching, but it's not my place to comment on how other families should operate--unless a child that is completely defenseless is getting the shit kicked out of him or her for no reason. This is why we have the Department of Human Resources.
     
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  8. Archssor ~ Carpe Diem ~

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    It depends on the kid.
     
  9. Dark_wolf247 The vision of homoexcelsior.

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    I was hit when I was younger. But the problem isn't whether or not a kid is hit or not, it's how hard they're hit. I, myself, don't like the idea, because my father didn't know his own strength and often hit me way too hard, like the time when I lied to him and he made me bend over the bed for a spanking. He hit me with so much force that the bed frame knocked against the wall and put a dent into it. That is child abuse, even if that isn't what people usually call it. When people usually think about child abuse, they usually think about a kid getting thrown around or being hit with switches or punched or something, but it happens in other ways too. That's why I absolutely despise being hit/hitting because I know how it feels. When I get older, if I have children, I will absolutely refuse to hit my child as a form of discipline.
     
  10. DevilB0i Banned

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    abuse feels wrong but if you have to you have to
     
  11. UltraSynaptic SeizureNinja Seizure Master

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    In short, yes, I will end up spanking my kid. I was spanked as a child and I know that in so long as it's justified, spanking does work.

    However, I refuse to use anything else other then my hands. Using belts and sticks are cheap in my opinion.
     
  12. illusion Senior Member.

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    I agree with this guy, some kids just need a slap! :oh
     
  13. Gunners .

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    can be seen both ways.

    sometimes a beat down is necessary if the kid does something he knows it wrong and then acts cocky then he needs to be put in his place.

    if the kid does something and is truely sorry just leave the situation.

    if the kid does something and fails to see the reason a grounding is necessary to show them the action will be punished.

    etc.

    i went to school with some people that deserved a beat down with fist ,dealing drugs etc.

    long and short i will probably beat my kids within reason seeming as thats how i was raised and i seem imo to turn out quite ok.
     
  14. volpone n_n

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    i would spank my kid for disciplinary reasons..but i think that hitting your kids on a regular basis is kind of abusive...
     
  15. Hazu ♥PUCCA LOVE♥

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    Absoloutley Not hitting hard, can't really say anything cuz it's forbidden in Sweden. But it can inflict a lot of psyhsical* (don't know how to spell it, forgive me >.<) damage on the kid and violence means they think violence is right etc
    I will definately NOT hit my kids, and I wont accept others hitting my kids either....
    *psychological, as my sister was kind enough to point out...
     
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    As a kid i was hit quite often acctually. I dont have any issues in my adult life that links it to that, as far as i know. But not everyone is the same...But as my perants used to say "spare the rod, spoil the child"
     
  17. Near Seeker of Truth

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    Last resort. I personally feel that it should be possible to raise a child without hitting or spanking. Thats easy to say though. If you see how some kids behave in this generation, then wow, you really wonder whats worse, a few spankings or an out of control kid you see on that show "super nanny".

    At the same time I feel that spanking is an quick extreme resort to improper child parenting. No ones perfect and can raise a perfect child. Sometime you cant create the perfect learning enviroment, lot of people underestimate the work put into raising a child. Ive seen the most fit parents having a hell of a time.

    Basically when it comes to this issue I am not quick to judge unless its really unnecessary physical contact. You punch a kid because he has a temper tantrum, your definitely CLEARLY stepping the line.
     
  18. OniTasku [Weeabro for life]

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    What happened with the good old soap in the mouth punishment? :wink

    In any case, I think that a bit of spanking is acceptable. To the degree and extent of it which is used should be the factor of discussion. I used to get spanked as a child, in my case I believe, it was too much and too hard. My dad was a man with a short fuse, meaning he was quick to jump on problems. I can remember multiple instances in which my brothers and I would be rough-housing (not to be confused with fighting) and my father would come in, break it up, and punch/kick us. My dad was also a boxer at the time, yet he couldn't control his strength that well, which ended up in my brother and I sometimes being pretty badly hurt.

    I do believe though, that a bit of spanking used in consideration and gently would be fine. Although, if spanking was used as the only method of punishment, and used oftenly, that is not acceptable.
     
  19. evil_kenshin all shall be lost to you

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    i definatly think spanking should be an acceptable way of punishing children, i find it stupid that its against the law at all here in Australia to physicly punish your child, as far to often children lack any disciplin and get away with far to much things , while i'm not saying spanking should be a first resort of punishment, it should still be part of parents rights to spank their child just not go overboard
     
  20. Raistlin-sama Have you been naughty or nice?

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    How can it be anyone's right to use violence against another human being?
     
  21. basiK Ra!

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    There should be a new law that lets you smack other ppls kids. :D
    Your parents own your ass.

    I belive hiting your kids is a must in raising them. I sure dont want my kids to be whiney spoil brat kids who always gets their way.


    ^hahahha <3 this guy xD

    Spoiler: BEAT YOUR KIDS YOU GIRLY MAN!!

     
  22. Ticking_Clock Tick... Tock... Tick...

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    Amen to that! Spanking children is the only way to teach their spoiled little brains that your the parent. Make them realize that, and if they got any bitch ass friends tattle on their parents. Make your kid a functioning member of society not some highstrung suburban gangster who thinks he's the boss of him self.
     
  23. Last of the Uchihas Get your own girls, Jonas!

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    A spaking is always good, especially if you have ADD, or hyperactive. :p

    That's the only way they are going to learn.
     
  24. botoman nande yanen

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    I was spanked as a child, and I must say it worked for me. Whenever I did something stupid, (for example, lie or swear), my mom would yell at me and then start walking for the main bedroom to get the belt or backscratcher. And by then, I was crying and apologizing and trying to brace myself for the pain. So, the next time I had a dumb idea, I'd know what would be the result if I was caught.

    Personally, I don't think it's wrong to spank a child, so long as it does NOT leave marks. I've learned that that was the definition of child abuse, that if the child had bruises, welts, cuts, or anything to indicate a beating, then that can be grounds for a school to call the police and have the matter investigated.
     
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    Hahaha, my dad and mom would beat me everyday just for the hell of it. When i would be like oh god why, my dad would do a evil laugh and say "pain builds character"
     
  26. lekki Specialist

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    A good spanking goes a long way and never did any permanent harm to anyone.

    Most of the kids I know that got spanked are doctors and lawyers and such.

    The one kid that I know definitely didn't get spanked just got an abortion and spent $150,000 of tuition money on clothes and nightclubs instead.

    Does spanking help? I think it does.
     
  27. SeruraRenge Reaching infinite

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    I seriously hope yur kidding. If not, then I pity you.
     
  28. evil_kenshin all shall be lost to you

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    because it will teach them to behave, that there is consequences for their actions, a kid will not listen simply from being told off, its bound ot happen again later, yet if smacked they will be less likely to do it since they can expect pain out of it
     
  29. Edgecrusher Nigu's buffer of butter

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    Oh God, Oh God, the memories... :amazed That was only used for cussing though.

    I wish parents who abused were smarter and talked to their children as many times as it takes and thought of better forms of punishment. But no, those parents want their children to grow up to be just as dumb as they are. Stupid fucks.
     
  30. Raistlin-sama Have you been naughty or nice?

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    However that is just one example. I know lots of kids (including myself) who have not been spanked on a regular basis, and yet acts perfectly normal (I also knows lot of kids who are spoiled brats, but oh well... Spoiled brats will always exsist no matter what). Hitting you children is forbidden by law here, and therfore I have lots of examples to look at. Of course not everyone acts according to the law though... But a good part (as in most people) does.

    It's all about how you handle it. Some people can raise kids without resorting to physical violence, other can't.

    I don't mind people who give their children a little slap and some minor physical punishment, but I would preefer if people could raise their kids without resorting to such measures.

    And yes, it is possible.
     
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